Ok ok.. no this isn’t tips on how to “Get the Girl of your Dreams”, because frankly, I don’t have any of those. What this really is, is some information I learned while talking to some of my friends. But the title got you going, eh?
It all started with one of those questions. You know, the question. Alright, not the question, but a question; “why does it seem the bad boys always get the girls?”, which could be better translated to “Why are girls attracted to the rough bad boy type?”. I got all kinds of input on this subject, but not a lot that I care to share in a “G Rated” environment. My input ranges equally almost from male to female, so lets see where this goes. These are opinions of other people, and I’m trying to understand them. Lets try to understand together. In fact, everything is simple (or so I’m told).
Good guys like to dress well. They do not have confidence in themselves, and are trying to compensate for that through a costume. Self-assured men (i.e. the bad boy?) feel equally good in any clothing, be it a sports suit, jeans or anything else. They are interesting in any clothing. They do not need to prove anything around. They have already proved everything. – Not really sure where that one was going, but its one to put in here. You would think that a well dressed individual would certainly stand out. And apparently they do, as they send out an “I’m compensating for something.”.
Good guys are afraid to make decisions. They want you to decide where you go tonight. And not because they value your opinion. They are just trying to shift responsibility on you. They have such a bad habit – to shift responsibility. Bad guys can make mistakes, they even may offend you, but they will not hide behind you. – This one I don’t agree with at all. I would say that “the good guy” is probably more interested in the girl. Making sure they were doing what she wanted to do. But hey. Every girl is different right?
Good guys like being with you when you are well. They have a property to go aside, as soon as there are troubles, even minor. They turn to other topics. They do not even try to help you. They will leave without any explanations. What is it? Good guys just do not burden other people’s problems on themselves, even if they are yours. They are cautious. After all, good guys do not know how to fight. And they go aside when you are in troubles. And appear again, when all have established. There is no guarantee that bad guy will help you. But he will definitely try. And there is nothing special here. He just likes feeling like a hero. – I don’t know what to even say to this one. I would see the guy that is not interested, and not trying to help as the bad guy… and to that I would also add, as a guy, I will never understand women.
Good guys are easily influenced. Grandma, Aunts, Mom, Dad, best friends and so on and so forth. What does it mean for you? Just if some of his precious family does not like you, your chances are zero. And then, even if you manage to withdraw him from this influence through tremendous efforts, who knows whom he wants to hide behind next time? If someone from a bad guy’s family does not like you, he will love you even stronger. There is nothing special here too! He will just love you against other people’s opinion. He loves the process of overcoming difficulties. – Guys, we’re gonna have to stand up to this one on our own. I don’t thing this is a good/bad guy issue either one. This comes down to one thing. If you truly care for someone (like,love, whatever), you won’t care what others think about your relationship, SO LONG as your significant other isn’t doing things you don’t agree with.
Good guys like educating you and want to change you. They read many books and consider their duty to inform you about this. It happens that sometimes they even write lyrics (half white). And read, read, read them for you. They harass you with grind. And you want to close your ears not to hear them, close your eyes not to see them and run, run from them, as far as possible. – Again with this one, if you truly care for someone (like,love, whatever), you will probably like them just the way they are.
Favorite exercise of good guys – reflection on future. You also have a vague chance to be with him in his future. Definitely, this not will be soon or easy, and only if you manage to close eyes on his endless doubts and regrets. He resides in tomorrow, but you live now! Most likely, you will run away with a bad guy, which is more present in today. Bad guys make future now. They act, make mistakes, then back in force. This is more like life. – This one I don’t know how to explain either. Sure some people may be focused on the future, but that can be treated as both a good or a bad thing. I think Its personally a good thing to aim towards the future, it helps you keep your priority straight and helps keep track of your goals; but I’m not sure how that translates into relationships.
Anyways, thats some of the information I got from digging around, and I just thought I’d share. of course I could look into writing a “Part 2″ but that all depends on how much user feedback and comments I get from you 
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